STEPS OF THE BLESSING
The steps or stages of the Blessing Process
The Marriage Blessing involves five steps that are designed to restore marriage back to its original state befoe the fall.
Click on the link below to view a set of brief videos, narrated by Dr. Tyler Hendricks, that will explain the Holy Wine and the other steps in the Blessing of Marriage, or read the explanation that follows.
1. The Holy Wine Ceremony
As a result of the Human Fall, our families have been separated from the love and life that God, our Heavenly Parent, intended. A tradition of false love has been inherited from generation to generation. In the Holy Wine Ceremony the couple together spiritually reverses the Fall and transitions spiritually from our fallen lineage back to God's lineage.
This ceremony restores the order of God’s original love. As Jesus offered bread and wine, saying, “This is my body and blood,” the Holy Wine represents God’s original lineage. In this ceremony the wine is given to the woman (Eve) first, who then shares it with (Adam) her husband, or future husband, as a spiritual way of reversing, restoring the process of the Fall. The couple is now ready to be married.
2. The Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony
The next step is the Holy Marriage Blessing. This is traditionally officiated by the Reverend and Mrs.Sun Myung Moon or by an officiating couple representing them. The officiators and their attendants first cleanse the couples spiritually by sprinkling them with holy water, which signifies their rebirth into God’s lineage as a blessed couple, leaving past sins behind. The couples then off vows in which they pledge to fulfill God’s ideal of creation as an eternal husband and wife as Adam & Eve would have become had they not fallen. They promise to establish a loving family, maintain fidelity and to raise their children to remain pure until marriage and faithful in marriage. They also determine to love all people of the world as God, our Heavenly Parent, does.This ceremony is closed by the officiators praying for the couples, claiming them as renewed sons and daughters and husband and wife within the realm of God’s original, eternal Blessing.
3. The Chastening Ceremony
The betrayal of Adam & Eve at the Fall initiated a history of resentment between men and women. We all have experienced, directly or indirectly, the pain of misused love, as have our ancestors. This simple ceremony provides an opportunity for each couple to restore any personal sexual misconduct in thet past and the historical abuse of each gender by the other as well. The bible speaks of chastening over 25 times. Two examples are Heb 12:6 & Rev 13:9. Here, each partner strikes the other three times upon the buttocks to repent, pay restitution, and penance with the heart to Forgive, Love & Unite, to resolve and restore the history of sexual immorality and the abuse of our bodies in the past. From this time forward any emotional, verbal or physical abuse within the couple is a violation of the Blessing vows and is not acceptable. Completing this ceremony opens the door to our Heavenly Parent’s forgiveness and grace. It is conducted after the Blessing Ceremony as the foundation for the next step.
4. The Forty-Day Separation Period
The number 40 is the biblical period for separating from sin (Num 14:34) and holy people of many faiths traditionally have carried out forty days of fasting, prayer and spiritual cleansing for thsi purpose. In this tradition abstaining from sexual intimacy for forty days of marriage is meant to separate the newly Blessed Couple from the history of self-centered love between men and women for them to make a new start. It can also serve as a time to heal a painful personal sexual past. The newly Blessed Couple offer their married life to God first and focus upon developing the inner aspects of their relationship through love, trust, commitment and spiritual intimacy. For married couples who are renewing their marriage through the Blessing, this period offers them the opportunity to restart their conjugal relationship with God at the center.
5. Three-Day Ceremony of Renewal
The Three-Day Ceremony has profound significance. You can obtain the detailed instructions for this ceremony from your officiating couple during the separation period.
Through this final ceremony Blessed Couples begin their conjugal life by reversing what was lost through the Fall by our original ancestors.The couple begin by cleansing their bodies. Then they invite God into their intimate love relationship with an offering of prayer. Through symbolic ceremonial steps, each partner gives spiritual rebirth to their spouse as an original man and woman. With God’s blessing and presence, their conjugal life can develop into one of total freedom in which they can love each other in joyful spiritual and physical oneness.
Salvation through Jesus makes salvation a spiritual reality through the forgiveness of the original sin in our spirit. The Three-Day Ceremony makes salvation a physical reality through the renewing of the union of husband and wife. Through it we re-establish the original ideal of love. Thus through the five steps of the Blessing the original sin is also forgiven in our bodies. The Blessing becomes the substantial foundation for the Kingdom of Heaven on earth.